so today i posed a question to a couple of people who are of some sort of significance to my life. some more significant that others. some who have gained their significance more recently and some who were of much more significance in the past. most were people i consider very close friends.
the question i posed was this, what is my biggest flaw when it comes to my personality? && these are the answers i got.
“You seem like you fall for people fast and give too much too fast. Dat’s da only flaw I noticed.
Jabari: (very close friend)
“The fact that you hold onto things. You can’t let go of ___. Thats an example but you tend to focus on things of the past or things that you cannot change. It can hold you down/back from making a better future for yourself.
Kieonna: (very good friend)
“You’re stubborn at times…but im sure you knew that hun…nothing else i can really think of.”
Jean: (very good friend)
“You’re too darn emotional! && you love these hoes”
Jakira: (very close friend/grandma/pilot)
“Idkkk…um nah I dont know. I dont see your flaws”
Kenny: (past significance)
“You are too emotional”
Nate V.: (past significance)
“This is a tough but good question. I would say you can be stubborn at times, and also you kinda sort erase people from your life once you’ve made up your mind.”
Kellei: (very close friend/pilot)
“Umm…idk. everyone’s unique in their own way lol. I think your personality is fine
Tahj: (very close/longtime friend)
“You dont value yourself”
Corey: (best friend/future husband)
“U let shit get to u too much u get down when shit go wrong”
“You take more from people than you really have to”
“Umm..idk if this has to do with your personality..but you have a hard time trusting ppl…other than that i think you’re a sweetheart.”
David: (past significance/ex-boyfriend/first everything)
now, as i read each and every person’s response i cried. i already had an idea what everyone was going to say but it still hurt hearing it. the consensus was that im too emotional. also, from the similarity of most of the answers, many of my problems stem from males. the crazy thing about this is that i am fully aware of these problem i just don’t know how to fix them. some of the answers were based off of individual experiences i may have had with the person && others just based off of them knowing what i’ve been through. so, what do i do now? i know that i am too emotional, but should i change? someone tweeted one day && said “you cannot control your emotions, but you can control how you express them.” that tweet really hit close to home. so i decided that is what i am going to do. learn how to express my emotions without bombarding people with them.